Thursday, June 16, 2011

There, I said it Thursday...

I have a problem, lovelies.  I have some pregnant friends and it takes everything, EVERYTHING I have in me not to be 'that' friend.  You know, the friend who constantly gives unsolicited advice, tells you all about how great her homebirth was, how she would suggest a midwife to any and everyone, the one who suggests that you watch certain documentaries or read certain books?  Yeah.  It's really difficult for me.  I really try to only make suggestions and will delve into other topics if my friend is interested but past that, I bite my tongue. 
I bite my tongue, then I judge.  I judge when friends don't at least try breastfeed past the painful first few days or they decide on a c-section because their doctor is going on vacation the same week their baby is coming.  Or carry their babies in car seats knowing that damn car seat is heavy, or go out and get the most unsafe baby carrier after seeing me with my bazillion carriers that are both safer and cuter! I know- I am terrible.   I am well aware that there are often times very legit reasons for not being able to breastfeed.  I am well aware of the fact that there are wonderful medical personnel who know what they are doing when it comes to women's reproductive health.  However....... I believe in making decisions after learning about what all the options are (for example-homebirth/hospital/birth center).  I think I judge a little harsher when I know that friends are just going by what the doctor prescribes without asking any questions.  Think for yourselves. Do some research.  Rant over. Go ahead and judge me.  There, I said it.  ;)

2 comments:

Midwife in Training said...

Personally, Im HELLA judgemental and I know it! Only difference is I just think my thoughts usually instead of speaking on it, which in turn causes me to have a stank tude with them usually and pull away. Not good I know. A friend of mine just visited me yesterday whose daughter just had a baby. Right away I noticed at least 3 things they could've called me on (breastfeeding, pacific, colick) and didnt b/c they figured I already had too much on my plate. This simply validates for me how much our women need education for reals and to know that doctors are not GOD!

Abby C. said...

thank you!!!! i am always happy to give suggestions and advice. all people have to do is pick up the phone!

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